A few years ago I wrote a post for an earlier blog I put up. The blog didn’t last very long as I wasn’t clear about why I was doing it. I am now so much clearer and have realised that I have to do it for my own enjoyment first, and if anyone get value from my posts - even better!
One of my previous posts - How to Attract an Amazing Partner - has been used by a friend of mine in his blog www.mypositivechange.com/blog/. It was amazing going back and reading my previous material. I was somewhat impressed with how much work I put into the article.
The post basically proposes that we get what we are looking for when it comes to relationships. If I am fearful of finding a needy partner then that it where my attention is. Likewise if I am looking for someone who won’t leave me, then that is what I am likely to find. So the important element is where my attention is - in other words I attract what I focus on.
For example - experiment thinking of something different. Maybe that you will see a blue bird or a pink flower. Keep focusing on whatever you choose and see how long it takes to appear. What I find amazing is that the object is usually there all the time before me - I just wasn’t looking for it. The moment I allow it to be in my conscious mind I see the object and am surprised.
The type of behaviour I am talking about is habitual in nature - it just becomes what we always do. I have friends who continually go to the same bars and meets new people, and each relationship ends the same way. They then complain to me that ‘there are no attractive men / women in this city’. I find these types of patterns easy to see - its a bit like a formula.
For example, take someone who doesn’t want to be alone (Person A). They go to a bar and meet a group of people. They are attracted to someone who they feel is great company, and who is likely to be quite comfortable with their own company (Person B) - basically the opposite of how they feel about themselves. If these two people date each other, it is likely that Person B may begin to feel trapped being around Person A, since Person A will want to be with Person B all the time as they don’t like being alone. Unless Person B is aware of Person A’s fears, and supports Person A to face their fear, they are likely to end the relationship.
I am not saying that this is true for everyone - I would just encourage you to have a look at your life and see if you have been or are creating what you want or what you don’t want. This isn’t usually an easy process to do - I find it challenging at times. The point though is to create a great relationship - all it takes is to look it from a different perspective - one that assumes it is possible and then look honestly at why it hasn’t happened.
I would encourage you to have a read of the post if this interests you. I am still in the relationship that inspired me to write the original post in the first place. I know that it is truly possible to be in a great relationship that works for me.
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